the skinflint philosopher

Attempting to thrift our way to a better life, with a toddler in tow!

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“Something old, something new?”

I salute the logic here.…

Estimate for a typical wedding cost comes in feet first and slapping you in the face with a round total bill of £30,000 according to some reports,…/01/average-cost-of-wedding
so if the thrifty stars of the yahoo article put their ‘special day’ on for 10% of that, we have to give them some credit. And long may the marriage last if money is not their main focus, as oft (mis)quoted, “the love of money of the root of all evil”.

Two points the skinflint philosopher wants to make about this theme for the time being (plenty more to come another time!).

I especially shake my head at the chosen headline ‘serves rubbish food’ (ho ho did you see what they did there folks, d’you get it?) as a way to pour scorn and disgust over food health and hygiene issues. How many times dear friends, must we hear before we understand that ‘Best before’ and ‘use by dates’ are not the same thing? The great British public being fearful of heebie jeebies and bacteria (while happily forking out for probiotic yoghurts and stilton mind you) are either scared or guilt-tripped into throwing food out before necessary, thus contributing among my list of food related deadly sins- money waste, packaging waste, food miles waste, irrigation water and agricultural production waste, land use waste, blah de blah the list goes on. Why do vegetables have a use by date anyway? Are we so far removed from the land and its bounty that we have to have someone in a white coat and with a plastic mesh over their head tell us whether we can eat an apple or not? Common sense should apply, but sadly for many, that is not an item you can checkout at your local supermarket.
Obviously there is a personal choice on what you feel happy feeding yourself with, and what you want to serve up to great Aunt Gladys and the in-laws on your nuptial day, but given that food bills are a major part of out monthly outgoings, we need to understand and think more about what and how we spend our money on.

Secondly, the whole concept that a wedding (or any other socio-cultural event) must have a certain conformity is a worry. This article celebrates the savings made, but doesn’t question why the costs were there in the first place. Why does celebrating something have to come as a hit to your wallet? Do people only accept a rite of passage if you flaunt your materialistic version of it in front of them? Should they not be there to be part of your memories and experiences, not to judge you on how many tiers the cake had or whether the sugar almond bag was properly tied in the colour of the moment ribbon?
And if you are going to apply skinflintery, why not go the whole shebang? Ask guests to do a faith supper (everyone brings a plate of food to contribute) instead of gifts? Prevents you have do some decluterring somewhere down the line too, so minimalism scores strongly too with that scenario.

As always, how you spend money is up to you. We all have our own preferences and priorities for our pennies, but given the phrase, “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue”, then I for one would argue that no brides would want the ‘borrowed’ bit to be referring to a thirty grand dent in their bank balance.

Go for the “something new” approach, and you might just surprise yourself instead.

Celebrating our customs and traditions now comes at a high price

Celebrating our customs and traditions now comes at a high price